The Child Energy

In our hearts there lives a child energy. One with wounds from times past. They can be so deep that they can not be bound or bandaged. They bleed from all of the judgement and fears that have been shown or felt.
But, as love enters in through the soul, the beat becomes one of healing. In the presence of love, and God force all fears desolve. And what is left is tears of joy for the healing has begun. Once released the child energy rejoices with laugher once again.

Quote from Abraham - Hicks

You are the only one that creates in your experience – no one else. Everything that comes to you comes by the power of your thought. If there are changes you would like to make, it will be of great value to begin telling a different story – not only about your body, but about all subjects that have been troubling to you. As you begin to positively focus, getting to feel so good about so many subjects, you wil begin to feel the power that crates worlds flowing through you.

The Block

Have you ever had writers block? Well, I seem to have developed a case of it over the past few weeks. Every time I tried to think of something to blog about I had a “no that’s not what I want to say” or “I just don’t feel like writing today”. I have had to take many a self inventory in the past few weeks to assess just exactly where I am in my life. Sometimes these self assessments can be very revealing and yes, at times even painful. I can honestly say, that I felt a little torn and battered, and really felt that I had nothing to offer that would be motivating or inspiring. So, I didn’t write. Now that I am in what I would say is a state of recovery, I feel that I can start again.

Desires And Dreams

Desires and dreams; what are they? I remember as a small child I used to fantasize about my life as a grown up. What I would be, where I would live and who I would be living with. Sometimes our dreams don’t come true exactly as we had fantasized, but. we do receive exactly what we put out to the universe. When we desire to have one thing, and within moments after that desire is put into thought, another thought creeps in that can stop that desire based on a belief that it is not possible to achieve what we want. At this point we have just stopped the process of our desire. Or, we have a desired thought or dream, and as we focus on it, we realize that we want something else. So, we focus on that desire and dream and as we focus on that, something else drifts into our thoughts and we decide to focus on that desire or dream. It can get rather complicated to achieve what you truly desire when you constantly shift what it is that you want. In both situations the main desire is not realized, because, either we don’t think we can have it or we don’t stay focused on one desire to create it. The latter for me is in the art of relationships. I bounce around a lot in my dreams and desires for what I want in my life when it comes to a relationship with someone. Most of the time it is because of the old belief system that I have about me and my self worth that creates the shift in thought. It is when I can step back and say I am worthy enough, talented enough, smart enough, attractive enough and I deserve the relationship that I desire. Then it can be manifested to reality. There is only one person who limits your manifestation of your desires and dreams and that is you. What ever you want you can have, just know that it is yours!

Appreciating The Contrast In Your Life

Appreciating the contrast in your life is extremely important, for it only in the knowledge of what you don’t want that you can truly see what you do want. If I didn’t have struggle I would not now what coasting feels like. If I hadn’t experienced pain I wouldn’t know how truly wonderful pleasure feels. If I hadn’t had those who were judgmental and conditional, I would never have known the joy in the unconditional loving for myself and others. At times I truly have felt that contrast sucks and yet each time I have seen the grace in it on the other side. For it is in that place that strength, resilience, fortitude, love, beauty, and care come into my life through me. I can truly say that I am deeply connected to my greater Source because of the contrast and resistance in my life.

Men vs. Women An Emotional Balancing Act

Men vs. Women, an emotional balancing act, before we can really grasp or understand the depth into this, we have to first explain a little female 101. For any men who might be out there reading this, communication is the key to a happy relationship with a woman. Mind you, a woman will expect you to know what she is thinking and to tell you what you are thinking, but, that is because you haven’t given her anything to keep her thoughts to herself…I have had so many clients and women in general that I have spoken to about this problem, they have said “If he would only talk about it, share with me what he’s feeling, call!!!” Now I am not a man so therefore my opinion is that, mine, but I will say in my observation of men, they have something to teach us women. And that is selfishness, you go it! Women in general go through life thinking about the other person, how they will feel, react, understand or whatever. We spend our time concerned with the taking care of others, rather than ourselves. Men on the other hand are just the opposite, they are concerned with #1 (themselves first) preservation of the species. It is an after thought to them to think about what you are thinking or feeling. The statement that is generated in the heat of a discussion is “Why didn’t you say that in the first place or I didn’t know you felt that way?” Communication is key. A relationship is made up of two people and in turn takes the two to enhance and enrich that said relationship. Working toward this goal is what we all strive to do and yet an important element is in the understanding of our differences. We have different hard wiring in our brain and throughout our bodies that allow us to be male and female, yin and yang. It is in the understanding of our differences that can give us better knowledge into how to communicate better. So that we can appreciate one another on a more spiritual level rather than the emotional one, most of us are in.

What Is Our Creative Self

What is our creative self? So many of us, don’t even know that we have a creative part. Most of the time, it is because when we were young, something happened to cause us to hide that part of us, so that it wouldn’t get hurt. I was working with a woman who talked about her inability to create. I told her that we all have some part of us that is creative in one form or another. As we talked we discovered that when she was a child she was teased at school for coloring outside the lines and so she created a belief that she was not creative. Does this sound familiar? We take on what is said and make it our truth even when it is a lie. Check in to that child within and see if there is a time in your past that created a sense within you of non-creativity. Non-joy is more what I would describe this part of us. Look at a child and see that even when they are not following the rule, they are in a space of pure bliss, jumping in those puddles, coloring a cow purple, eating the frosting and leaving the cake. Live your life creative and juicy. Why postpone Joy?

Don't Take It Personally

In Don Miguel Riuz's book The Four Agreements, he talks about four rules to live your life by: 1. Be impeccable with your word. 2. Don't take anything personally. 3. Don't make assumptions. 4. Always do your best.
I want to talk about number two. Don't take anything personally. Today I am working very hard on remembering this simple but profound rule. How often when something happens in our life do we feel that it is a reflection about us. The questions flow What did I do? What didn't I do? If I only did this it would have been better. I could have prevented it from happening. The truth is, it is not about you....What ever is going on in the other person is their stuff not yours and to accept their stuff is not your responsibility. Your responsibility is to work on your own stuff.
Check in with yourself. How are you feeling at this present moment? Is the relationship feeling good or is it feeling not so good? Where is that feeling coming from? How does it relate to this present moment? What in this moment is about you? Can you figure out if this is from an old belief? If so what do you need to do to change it so that you can feel better? You are only responsible for you.....Let go of what other people think, because to be honest, you will never know the answer to that question.....

Affirmations

When we are trying to get in a healthier place both spiritually and emotionally one of the greatest tools is affirmations. When we can say I am powerful, I am beautiful, I am strong, I am good, I am smart, I am creative, I am.. I am… I am. Then we can start to feel better and even though at first you might not really feel the words you are saying, very soon you will start to feel them. Take time to write your affirmations down, write at least 100 of them. Keep them positive. Do not limit yourself in any way. Write down things that you might not feel you could ever achieve, but have always felt. It is important to make them as real to you as possible. Do not have any doubts while doing them. Put them in categories:
Health/Fitness
Career
Relationships
Spirituality/God
Money
Friends/Family
Fun/Recreation
Environment/Home
You
By doing this you create a tool to setting your goals as to what you want in your life and achieving it.
Aha! I am full....

Sacred Relationships V

Intimacy and sexuality are a very strong component of who we are in a healthy relationship. How can we get there? One of the most important parts of creating a space for attracting intimacy in your life is allowing yourself to feel safe. I think safety is key to all areas of our life. When we are in a state of fear regarding anything, from fear of the unknown to fear of rejection what we attract is the same thing that we fear. When we are in a place of love and acceptance we attract that to ourselves. So to get to a place of feeling safe, we have to explore the deepest part of us, the place that is hidden from the pain of time, that child energy that has been wounded, hurt, rejected. This part of us holds us in the old pain, not allowing us to break free. Once we acknowledge its existence and are able to understand where this feeling came from, then we can start to heal.
Close your eyes and see that child from the past, the child that was the purest of loving energy. See you before the pain formed in your life. What does this child look like? How old is this child? Talk to your child energy, find out if there is something that you need to know or need to do to create that safe place for you. Take this moment to get to know that child energy and the wisdom that they share with you. If there is a word or phrase that comes from your time with your inner child, remember it and when you open your eyes write it down. Concentrate on what you heard, what you know to help you heal. You can go back and visit with your inner child at anytime, this is a special place of healing and growth. Create the sacred and safe part of you so that you can fully share with another that joyful dance of loving intimacy.

Sacred Relationship IV

In a Sacred Relationship intimacy and sexuality are a celebration of souls. There is a communion between two people. This is the sharing of holy spirit that dwells within all of us. In this time of unconditional loving there is no need to please, it is the desire to share the oneness each feels within themselves with the other. As that all encompassing love is extended outward towards another, the pleasure and desire builds into an ebb and flow of the holy spirit with in each partner. It is truly a spiritual experience that is more that just physical touch. When one is truly in a Sacred Relationship the deepest part of the self is exposed in such a glorious way. It is not about the flesh as it is about the union of God energy coming from the inside reaching out.

Sacred Relationships III

When we are looking at our relationships to see if they fill us or deplete us, we can get a clear picture of who we go to for fulfillment. The three most important ways to get full and stay full are by first going to God, Universal Source, Creator, Buddha, Allah whatever you call your higher power. Next you go to yourself. Lastly, you go to others to fill you up. In doing so you want to make sure that those that you seek are already full themselves. You are completely transparent in your asking for love, you let them know exactly what you need at that moment. I don't know how many times I have heard people say, doesn't he/she know that I need them to do this or that without me having to ask. Even if one could read the other person's mind, it is not their responsibility to know when you are not full yourself. When I say full I mean that you feel loved and accepted in yourself and that you do not carry judgment. This is unconditional loving. It is easy to know whether someone is loving you unconditional or not by checking where you feel your energy when you are around them. Do you feel full in your heart area or do you have that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach? Do you feel your own power or do you feel powerless?
When we are in a state of unconditional loving, we are not bound by emotional attachment. We have let go, severed the cords that bind us to others. We have let go of the judgments that create conditions. In this state the love, what we feel for someone else is the extension of the love we feel for ourselves.

Sacred Relationships II

Sacred Relationships are based on the ability to be transparent. What I mean by that is that no matter what you feel or think, you are able to share that with your partner and know that they will accept you for who you are. You don't have to put on a facade for them. Bad hair day or not the mask comes off and it is just you, bare soul in front of the eyes reflecting back your goodness and love. In a Sacred Relationship there is only unconditional love. It is safe here!

Sacred Relationships

I have been studying about Sacred Relationships and wanted to share with you what I am learning. A sacred relationship is based on unconditional loving for ones self and all others. It is the ability to see the God in everyone around you, no matter who they are. This includes the homeless man/woman begging on the street, the drug addict strung out on heroin, the teenage mother on food stamps, the executive in the big office building downtown and the person standing in front of you in the mirror. We can not truly have a sacred relationship with anyone until we ourselves are full of unconditional love. Our hearts have to be overflowing with fullness of spirit for everyone including ourselves. When we look into that mirror we should see the most beautiful inner child, full of joy and happiness that we exist. For we are perfection in every way, we are born in God's image, so therefore we truly are awesome.

Guilt

Guilt - Is a very powerful emotion that can hold us in a grip so strong that we feel immobilized. It can be a belief that we have been carrying since childhood or one that was created later in life. It doesn't matter when the guilt started, what matters is how to let it go. I have had guilt about not being good enough for a very long time. To the point that in my adult life I would berate myself for doing something that created undeserved attention. That by some measurement I wasn't high enough on that scale to receive that recognition, it belonged to someone greater. Or, the opposite would happen, I would work extremely hard and do the very best I could, and the recognition was not forthcoming. Which in turn would infuriate me as to why they couldn't see my best efforts. Ah, then the guilt....Maybe I didn't work hard enough, or maybe I'm just not good enough...The mirror in front of me shows me that I am who I believe I am. Therefore if I believe that I am unworthy, why would anyone else believe otherwise. Getting rid of the guilt is an inside job....Tap in to your greater good, Turn on the best that you have to offer, Tune out all the negative thoughts that keep you in a space of less rather than more..

Lost and Found Department

The lost and found is a place where we have gone to either drop something off that is not ours or to look for something that is. What about the lost and found of our lives; lost loves and found ones, lost jobs and found ones, lost friends and found ones I could go on. In every case there is a change that occurs in our life do to either the loss or the finding of something else. Sometimes there is sorrow that accompanies the loss and yet in the spring time of life there comes a renewal of new finds yet to be. In the saying "When one door closes another opens" we can see how the perfection in the universe conspires to give us exactly what we want. So, the lost and found department is always at work 24/7.

What Is Your Epitaph?

What is your epitaph? When I think about the last thing that I would like to be remembered for. I think about what I have done to leave a mark or to be significant in this world. Have I done anything profound? Have I touched others lives? Will I be missed or noticed when I am gone? I think about even the littlest of things, such as taking the hand of a child and leading her/him across the street. Or, giving a dollar to the homeless man sitting on the corner. Even though I might not have saved a nation from annihilation I have saved one dog. I might not have feed millions but I have feed one. When I think about my life I realize that I have touched many lives and they have touched mine and I am so much richer for it....

What's the worst that can happen?

RejectionI can truly identify with the strength of this word. So many times in my own life I wouldn't dare to say or do something because of the fear of being rejected. Sometimes just the thought of the possibility would hold me back from pursuing something that I truly wanted. It was from an experience or two in my past that created the belief and held me in captivity. What's the worst that can happen? This is the question that I finally discovered helped me to break out of my fear. When I started to look at both senerios I realized that no matter what the outcome I would still be OK, it wasn't going to crush my spirit, though it might hurt for awhile I was going to survive.

Alone

When I look down the trail of my life I pause.
For I see those dark shadows by the side of the road.
Why would I take that path,knowing it will lead me away from home.
As I look farther ahead I see a place of comfort there.
Only through the dark can I come to the light.
And so I walk this path,
Alone.
Insecure, afraid..
But trusting in the outcome.
Knowing the other side is there for me and I am with my God.
I am truly not alone...

The Changling

Do you remember "The Changlings" in Star Trek? They were beings that could become something or someone else depending on the situation. How often are we changlings in our own lives and relationships? There have been many a time that I have not been completely honest with someone else, about who I am. Instead I have tried to be what they wanted. It started in childhood with my parents and siblings. The thought was "If they really knew me, they wouldn't love me, so I have to be what they want me to be so that I get their love." Then as I grew older I found that it was easier in a relationship to morph into what the other person wanted. Funny thing is, the more that I became the person I wasn't, the more I longed for the person I was. When I finally found the awareness of the person I really am, I yearned more for that essence. It is like a truth serum, a holy grail, the power within. The hardest part is to admit it to yourself, and start living your truth instead of the lie. It is not easy, but once you start it is an elixir of passion and purpose far beyond what you every thought possible to have.

Total Appreciation

Today I am spending a moment in total appreciation. Appreciation for being here on this earth, in this body, in this time, and at this moment. For I know that even in the challenges I face I grow in faith and love. Faith in that everything is perfect, right here right now. And love for all that I have and all that I am shown to desire more of. As I feel the deepest of my appreciation, I know that it is coming from a source much greater than the human part of myself. It is infinite and abundant and never ending. I am in ah of the depth and power that this unconditional loving energy has. It holds me in it's caress and I know that I am loved without judgment, scars are unseen, size is inconsequential, past is forgiven, guilt is in-material, we are all the same. Children in the purest form and oh so loved....

It's All In The Thought

How often do you go from pleasure to pain? It's all in the thought.
It amazes me how if I am not connected to a place of gratitude and thankfulness, how I can start to question my actions and my existence at that present moment. I can not go from grateful to sadness or being worried without allowing those thoughts to creep in. What I have found is that most of the time they are helped along by others. I can be in a state of loving and be around someone who isn't so loving and feel the energy get sucked right out of me. It is only when I am fully aware of what is happening that I can stop the process and make a decision to block my thoughts from going to that not so fuzzy place. It takes steady practice and I find that when I am in a vulnerable, low mood that I attract more of that which I don't want. Helpless and hopeless are not friends of mine. Strength and wisdom are. Keeping an eye on your thoughts and feelings is stepping into the awareness game to go from pain up the ladder to pleasure.

What's in Her Koolade?

When I sit and ponder my life and how I got to this point, I note all the things I am grateful for that got me here in the first place. It might seem to someone else to be a horrible place to be, the separation of a thirty year marriage, new career move, and economic hardship. What I see is a new adventure, a more fulfilling life and opportunities never taken before. You might be saying "What's in her Koolade?" What I created was purely out of the love for myself and therefore everything that has surrounded it has manifested in love as well. My husband and I remain friends and I feel we are closer then ever before. My new career path offers me the ability to work with young women in helping them go through the limiting beliefs that we as parents (out of love) give them and they need to get rid of. Well the economic hardship, I brought on myself from my own limiting beliefs and can change them as I empower myself. So, I do feel very blessed in the knowledge that I am the captain of my ship and only I control my destiny. I am so excited to see where the compass takes me next!

Slow Down

I’ve started a book club featuring David Essel’s book Slow Down, The Fastest Way to Get Everything You Want . http://www.meetup.com/Inner-Self-Development-Meetup-Group. You can follow the club on-line or if you live in Naples, Florida please come join our group. David takes you through three steps 1. Intention, 2. Gratitude, and 3. Action. In the process of slowing down and taking a look at these three areas of our lives we can learn how to manifest everything that we are wanting in our lives. One very important step is the writing assignments. In writing our intentions, gratitude and actions down we can see where we are, at this present moment and look at where we want to be in the future. Come take a journey with me to just Slow Down. To learn more about David Essel I have included a link to his web-site http://talkdavid.com

Creating What We Desire

Creating what you want is easy to do. Knowing what you want maybe harder.
There are so many times when I think I know what I want in my life, but, once it materializes then I say “Well that wasn’t what I wanted!”
Sometimes we really have to take a look at what it is we truly want and evaluate “Is it really something that I desire in my life?” As soon as you desire something you will be putting it out into the universe to receive it. Whether the energy that is given to the desire is positive or negative it has been asked for.
If you desire to have financial wealth and you are coming from a position of lacking money in your life than it is from a state of lack that is going out into the universe. If you want a loving relationship with someone and you are coming from a place of total love and abundance then you’re creating total love and abundance to come to you.
It isn’t as much the thoughts we have about our desire as it is the feelings that surround it. Each time we are in a feeling place that is based in fear or lack then what we receive is going to be from the same place of fear or lack. This is why we find ourselves recreating the things we do not want in our lives.
So how do we get to a better feeling place? The first step is awareness. Once we become aware that what we want is what we do not have and that our focus is on the do not have rather than the want. Then, we can change the feeling of lack and start feeling from a better place. How do we do that? The best way is to take little steps.
First look at what you do have and start having appreciation for those things or relationships. Then notice how you can enhance what you already have, such as, “I have a wonderful friendship with this person and we share like minded interests. It is so fun to be around this person and I am truly grateful for any time that we can spend together. I will look for more opportunities to be able to spend with this friend because it gives me such joy in my life.” By doing this it creates a positive aspect to your desire and allows what you want to manifest. As we become more aware of our gratitude for the things or people in our lives, we start feeling more love and abundance. Then when something happens to draw us back in the feeling of fear or lack, we can choose to move out of that feeling and see how we can come from a better place by refocusing on what we do have and being grateful for it.
Try this out and Write it down….See how it changes your creation of what you desire.

It Is.....

It is in the eyes that we see hope.
It is in the heart that we feel love,
It is in the words that we hear caring.
It is in the touch that we feel warmth.
It is in the world that we see the need to give so that others receive.

How Great Thou Are

How great thou are, how great thou are! When I was a child we sang this song in church. It was a reflection to me of a power far greater than my little self. Never did I believe that the greatness spoken in this song could be a statement to myself. How great thou are! Yet it is so true. Every day I see more and more of the greatness I have present within me. The strength of endurance when things were tough and there was struggles. The unconditional love given when it wasn't necessarily appreciated or returned. The moments that you see your ability to create a better life and better world, even if for just one child. How great thou are, How great thou are!

Fear Can Overtake a Logical Mind

Fear can overtake a logical mind. How often we are held in the hands of fear, cradled there, it is not a comfortable place to be, but it is a familiar one. We trigger fear from our thoughts about something. Maybe there was no indication that we should have fear toward whatever the situation is, but an old belief prompted it. How can we stop fear from keeping us held captive? Good question- I believe that it is in the awareness of it that creates the release. Once we become aware that it is fear that motivates our thoughts or the situation then we can work on letting it go. In writing down what prompted the thought and what is truly happening right now, will allow ourselves to see the fear for what it is. When there is fear there is a lack of love....Hmm! Look at what is hidden in the thought as to why there is no love there. What is the belief that created the love loss? This is how to truly get to the bottom of fear...

I Cried, I Ached, I Denied.....

I cried, I ached, I denied what I knew to be my resistance. I desire to see myself in God's greatest glory a spirit of true love. My path is straight my eyes are open to receive and I will continue this journey. Though along the way I may stumble and fall, I now can pick myself up and move forward, because I am strong, resilient, a bright star in the galaxy, and now I know no matter what my light will not go out. It will only become brighter and brighter as I feed it loving energy.

The Pursuit of Happiness

I have spent so much time in the pursuit of happiness that I didn't notice it when it was right in front of me....How often we look outside of ourselves for validation and acknowledgement. If I only had that car I would be happy. Buying that house would really make me happy. I need that job to truly be happy. After achieving the car, the house and the job are we happy? or do we require more to continue the pursuit. If we look inside our selves and see us for who we are, then we will know that it is not in the things that create our happiness it is in our own view of ourselves. It is in truly looking at the image before you and being happy with were you are at the present time in your life that will allow all the other things to fall into place. It is only when you are happy inside that the outside world will seem a little brighter.

When We Were Born

When we are born we are pure of spirit. We are unconditional love in action. As we go through our life we become aware of pain and fear and this diminishes our connection to the source of loving energy that we only knew when we first entered this world. Our expectations from others and ourselves have a major impact on how we live our lives. And in some cases can hold us in our own type of purgatory. It is only when we become aware of our negative feelings and start to take positive steps to give ourselves self-love that the changes can be made. Remembering that when we were born we were pure of mind, body and spirit. We were aware of feeling on a cellular level, our intuition was all we had as a form of communication. We knew only love and expected only love. We can change ourselves by remembering what it felt like at the point of accepting to enter this world.

My Life

How often it is that I sit here contemplating on what to do with my life. How do I want to live the rest of my life. When I look at my life now and meditate on it in a year I see myself choosing to be somewhere far greater than where I am today.
How will I get there? What do I have to do to create that life? These and many other questions I pose to myself over and over again. In the midst of trying to create my different life. What I am realizing is that I am trying to hard and that I have to stop the trying and just let it go...For only when I do that will I see the manifestation of what I desire. Creation comes in the midst of calm...

From Marianne Williamson

In Marianne Williamson's book A Return To Love she writes "Through a mystical connenction between the human and devine, we give birth to our higher self." Which I interprut this to mean that when we embrace our true God energy (unconditional love) we then move into a higher space in our clarity of thought, feeling and action.

The Sectret of Health

"The secret of health of both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future or anticipate troubles but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly."

-Buddha

You Are A Goddess

Do you really know how awesome you truly are? You are a Goddess. A Life creator, without you there would be no other human being here on this plant. Do you understand the significance in your existence? Most of us women spend our time in service to others. We are the caretakers of our children, our spouses and sometimes our parents. Who takes care of us? Most of the time because of our nature we do not allow ourselves the luxury of being cared for and therefore we become empty in spirit. By filling yourself up with love and acceptance of how truly incredible you are, will allow you to see your higher purpose. Being a caretaker is noble and good as long as it doesn’t come with self sacrifice. No one should sacrifice themselves for the sake of another, it is not a noble gesture, though, some of our teachings would have you think it was. Living a life were you are as important to the world as all others is the noblest of all.

An Extraordinary Gift

An extraordinary gift was given to me today that of unconditional love. This was not a gift I received from another person, even though I have many of them in my life. This was a gift I received from me to me. I embraced myself and accepted myself for all that I am. I forgave myself for all the thoughts and actions that were destructive and harmful. I shared with myself my compassion and kindness and through it all I knew I was in the presents of God’s loving energy. For it truly is in unconditional love that we are with God and walk in the path of truth.

A Woman Of Substance

What is a woman of substance? Is it someone who has lots of money? Is it someone who is famous? I believe a woman of substance is a woman who knows that she is perfection just the way she is. No matter what age, race, background, height, and weight she is, she can look at herself and know that she is the art of the Creator and therefore she is beautiful in every way. This is a woman of greater substance then anything the outside world can offer her…

We Have Nothing To Fear But Fear Itself

FDR said “We have nothing to fear but fear itself” how true this statement is, for it is only when we are in fear that we are immobilized to change. How many times have you said to yourself “I can’t do that” or “It’s not going to work”? How do we know unless we try? We build a worst case scenario in our heads to keep us held captive to our thoughts and beliefs. Only by walking through our fear we can create the change and growth that we want to have in our lives.

Thought For Today

We go through life most of the time in an unconscious act, unaware of our feelings, driven only by our thoughts. When we can pre-pave our day by a determined effort to change whatever negative thought we are thinking to one of a positive thought. Then we can see all the opportunities that we might have otherwise missed. When we are thinking positively in our lives we bring to us positive energy, in the same way when we think negatively we bring much of the same. Our thoughts create our reality. If we start to look at how we are feeling at the time we are having those thoughts and recognize that the thought and feeling coincide with each other then we can move ourselves into a better feeling to create a better thought.

A Talk with God

I had a talk with God today and in that conversation I asked for hope, joy and a clarity of purpose. What I heard back was as long as the path is full of struggle, worry and strife there is none of those things I ask for. It is only when I let go of fear and know that no matter what, I am taken care of and will always be given everything I need. Then and only then can I see and feel true hope, joy and most important my life’s purpose, which is to be the true essence of God in every way.

Tap In Tune Up and Turn On

Tap in Tune up and Turn on….When we start to really know the power of our thought in action we learn how to tap into our feelings and change them as we go through our day. Small increments such as waking in the morning and saying “I will create a day filled with love and warmth that surrounds me and moves through me and I will only allow love to penetrate into me this day and every day.” We can take baby steps in the process of our emotional change until we get to a place were we are BLISSED OUT!

We Are Shaped By Our Thoughts

"We are shaped by our thoughts, we become what we think. When the mind is pure joy follows like a shadow that never leaves."
-Buddha

Everything Is Perfect!

When I was young I didn’t understand my mother’s word “Everything is perfect, though you may not understand it at this moment later on you will see why it was perfect.” These words have rang true throughout my life. So many times something will happen that I would have thought was the worst thing in the world and have questioned “Why?” Later on something else will occur and I will say “Ah! Now I understand the perfection in that”. What we desire and want will manifest, no matter whether it is in our best interest or not. It is what we felt and thought about and therefore created. Timing is everything. Creating what you truly want comes with risks and benefits, by understanding that these both exist will help you get through those times of uncertainty.

Meditation Prayer

Here is a little meditation prayer:
This day I give my life over to you. I will let go of the oars so that I can go downstream. I will not fight the universal flow in my life. Help me to bring about the changes that will enhance my life and others.
Namaste

Changeling

Change can be difficult. It can be surrounded with fear and uncertainty or it can be looked at as a new adventure. Attitude has so much to do with how we embrace change. I like the question and I use it a lot What Is The Worst That Can Happen? Once asked and answered everything else is a piece of cake!

The Box

How often I have considered myself to be in a place of security when in fact there was none. I seem to be in a box and keep myself there to shield myself from the outside world. At times it is more difficult in the inside of the box then I could imagine it would be if I just opened it up and stepped out. But, to step out would mean I would be going into the unknown where to stay in the dark, even though it is dismal it is what I know. How often do we stay in a place that is harmful to ourselves because to move on to us would be too scary? Maybe it’s time to open the flaps and take one step at a time out of that box. It might be the best move of our life.

A Quote From Marianne Williamson

I want to share with you one of my favorite quotes from Marianne Williamson:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually who are you not to be?.... We were born to be manifest in the glory of God that is within us!"
We are in his likeness and therefore we are love.....

Changing The Would If's

Let’s talk a little about that self we call the Inner Child. This is the truest part of us the genuine item. When we feel any emotion, fear, sadness, love, happiness you name it, we are feeling them from different places within us. The times that we are scared or upset are times that we are coming from that child within, where we do not feel safe and secure. At times when we feel happy and joyous we can also be coming from that child like place. As you start to get in touch with your emotions you can check on were you are feeling that emotion. Is it coming from a rational place or an irrational place? Most of the time when we are in a state of fear, we are coming from an irrational place. When I talk about fear I’m not talking about due to a threat of bodily harm, I’m talking about our own unique fears of life, the would ifs. Would if the house burns down, would if I lose my job, would if my husband has an affair. Most of the time, these fears are untrue and are created out of our own insecurities about life. When we tap into where this thought is coming from we can see that it is normally related to an old belief. As we work on changing those beliefs we can stop the would ifs in our lives.

Who Is Your Inner Child

Who is your inner child? Do you know that child well? Has that part of you been tucked away so long that you don’t know if he/she is there? We all have an inner child, that part of us that is perfect in every way. From the time we were born on this earth we have had to recreate who we are do to others. Over time because of the beliefs about our family, society, religion we lost parts of ourselves in order to fit in. You can reconnect with this part of you.

The Stories We Tell

As children we think about stories as wonderful ways to see the world, or an escape from a reality that we did not want to face. As we grow up stories take on a new meaning. A story is as it always has been a tale, or an exaggeration of the truth. We tell stories all the time, these stories are all about what has happen to us over the course of our lives. We get sucked into believing that these stories are our truth and at times we tell these stories over and over again, to ourselves and others. A story can be as simple as the loss of a first love that crushed any hopes of finding true love again or failing a class that prevents you from moving forward in your education because of the feeling of being a failure. Whatever the story is, it is not real and this is what we all need to understand. We can change our lives by seeing the false beliefs that we carry around with us and change our perceptions about them. By acknowledging that something has happened and developing a way of making it into a statement of fact instead of a story we tell. We can stop buying into the false beliefs and create a healther life.

There Is Nothing To Fear But Fear Itself

One of the biggest obstacles in my life is fear , I seem to be afraid of the unknown a lot more than the known. Sometimes just a thought of what could happen can send me into a tail spin. Does this sound familiar? There are a lot of us who chose not to try something new because of the what if outcome. We stay in our comfort zone, even if the zone is uncomfortable it’s less scary than the unfamiliar. I have had so many times in my life that I have said "I will never know unless I try, what is the worst that can happen?" Most of the time the worst never happens and the outcome is so much better than I expected. My fear was holding me back.

Growing From The Inside Out

James Ray writes about how we grow from the inside out. If we want more for ourselves we have to start with ourselves. We have to examine who and what we are and what is holding us in resistance against achieving what we want. We determine the quality of our lives, not anyone else. http://harmonicwealth.com/index.php/forum/post/183 It starts with intention, if your intention is to be wealthy you have to go inside first and work on the part of you that is preventing you from that wealth. As James says go in - involution, and grow, your results on the outside - evolution - must happen. Anytime we have a goal or desire we have to grow inside in order to meet it, this is involution. You envision your goal and then go inside to create the growth that is necessary to achieve that goal. Of course there are action steps one has to make to create the goal. But first start with you!

Listen To What You Say

Often times we speak without listening to what we are saying. I was in a conversation with several women the other day and found that there were several times that one or another of us said something negative about someone else or about ourselves. It is easier to do and harder to stop. If we listen to the words that we speak, in a conscious awareness we can start to hear the negative talk and change it. Listen!

Don't Believe Everything You Think

I had always thought of the Ego as being prideful, arrogant, boastful, you can add more of your own adjectives to it that apply. One of the things that I have discovered is that Ego is also those times when you are feeling lesser than. These are those times when you think that the conversation that someone is having is all about you, and not in a good way. I was talking to someone the other day, who told me that when she was in a restaurant she over heard two women talking about her. I asked her if she knew these women and she said “No, she had never seen them before”. I asked her why she thought they were talking about her and she said because one of them looked up at her as she was walking by. It is interesting how our Ego can get in the way. If we take the opportunity to recognize the times that it is our Ego talking than we can start to work on the things that are motivating what we are thinking. Be careful, Don’t Believe Everything You Think!

Conquering the Core

What are our Core Beliefs? These are the beliefs that are deep inside of us and most of the time we do not even recognize that these limiting beliefs are there. It is only when something happens in our life that triggers a reaction producing judgment that we know our beliefs are at work. My biggest core belief is that I am stupid, I know on the surface that I am not stupid, but deep down in the core of my being, it is there. When ever someone questions a judgment or decision that I have made, the stupid belief creeps its ugly head out of the deep recesses of my core. Only when I am in awareness and can recognize that this is false, can I move forward in my life. It can be a constant battle, but one that you can overcome.

You Were Born Perfect

Our personal power comes from unconditional love. This is love for our self, as well as love for all others. Self love is one of the most important parts of personal power. Through self love we can see the beauty, grace and exceptional person that we truly are. We were born perfect, but over time we stopped believing it because of beliefs that were given to us. Those beliefs came from our parents, siblings, schools, religion, and community. We have fostered these beliefs and have created limits in our lives because of them. Only when we can acknowledge their existence and change the power they have in our lives can we fully embrace our personal power.

Get Connected

Meditation is another way to get connected to your higher power. It can be done in as little as five minutes. Find a quiet place where you won’t be interrupted. Get in a comfortable position, it can be sitting in a chair, on the floor or reclining. Now close your eyes and take three deep breaths. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. As you take each breath, try to hold it for as long as you can before exhaling. As you exhale, feel your body start to relax from your head down to your feet. You can repeat "Breathe In, Breathe Out" as you breathe. This will help you remain focused on your meditation. At this point concentrate on your body becoming more and more relaxed. Center all your attention on feeling the heaviness of your body. The more you relax the deeper the meditation. Your mind might want to wander to a chore or task that needs your attention. That’s ok, acknowledge it and let it go. Continue to focus on your breaths and how your body is feeling. When you are ready let yourself come back to awareness and open your eyes. As you continue the art of meditation you will see that your ability to stay in a relaxed place will grow longer and longer. Do not get discouraged if your thinking takes over, just try to quiet those thoughts as much as you can.

What Are You Waiting For

In Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Eat, Pray, Love we find out about gratitude through the art of prayer. Elizabeth talks about the japa malas beads from India and how there are 108 prayers said for the 108 beads, in Catholicism there is the rosary with its 59 beads for prayer. I have a friend who designs and sells Gratitude Beads with its 101 beads. These are a way for one to pray or give thanks for the abundance in their lives bead by bead. What ever we do whether it is through giving thanks out loud, writing in a journal or using beads to remind us of our gratefulness, it is in the practice that will keep us centered in joy.

Practicing the art of gratefulness is in our day to day routine. Get up in the morning, pour yourself a cup of coffee, sit with a journal at the kitchen table or get in front of your computer screen. Then start your list, what am I grateful for? It can be as little as that warm cup of coffee and as big as the most awesome relationship with the man of your dreams. Just start….Do it Now.

Attitude Of Gratitude

So now that we have reclaimed our power, what’s next? Finding an attitude of gratitude is a first step. The more we are empowered the more we appreciate all that we have in our lives. The best way to develop an attitude of gratitude is by a ritual of either stating out loud what you are grateful for or writing it down. This can be done anytime in your day. I prefer in the morning when I first wake up. By doing it when I awake, I am able to put myself in a joyous state that helps to create the day I have. Go with the flow and see what happens.

If It Doesn't Feel Right, It's Probably Not!

The second part of reclaiming your personal power comes from ownership and honesty. By being completely honest with ourselves we can see our responsibility in giving away of power to others. Take for example the power vampire, I have had so many times were I have feed into the drama of someone else. The more that they say poor me, the more I respond how can I fix it. This is a game of depleting your personal power. Once you recognize it then you can stop. How we stop can be by sitting back and being consciously aware of how we are feeling and how we are acting in that moment. If it doesn’t feel right then it surely isn’t.

Reclaiming your Personal Power

So here we are. We have given away all our Personal Power and now what? Well, let’s talk about how we can reclaim our power. There are two ways to regain your personal power. The first is through forgiveness. You need to forgive the person whom you are jealous of or angry with. Maybe, the person you feel is better than you or someone who has hurt you in some way. Also, forgive yourself for those feelings of anger, jealousy and coveting. Even wishing someone ill over what they have, because of pain you have suffered from them in relationships, and/or business. When we can forgive ourselves for our part in the relationship and its demise then we can truly reclaim our personal power.

Personal Power Vampire

The third step in loss of your personal power is the Power Vampires. These are those people who the glass is always half empty. You know the ones, you say “How are you?” and that becomes an opening for them to tell you the long list of ailments and personal struggles that they have going on in their lives. The more you are around them the worse you feel. Next time you have that tingle on the back of you neck, when you feel one is close by…. Run.

Idolizing Is For Whimps

The second part of loss of personal power comes from idolizing someone. Whether it is a movie star, a president, administrator, or a friend, you are giving your power away when you put them up on a pedestal. It is important to see that the more you give your personal power away the more unworthy you feel. I spent a lot of time giving away my power to those that I felt were smarter than I am. At the time feeling that I was unworthy to be in their presence. When I would be in a meeting or social gathering with these people I would either not have anything to say because I felt what I had to say was stupid or when I did say something I felt very uncomfortable and that my words were not heard

Personal Power

I recently read a book written by David Essel called Slow Down. I discovered, not only what personal power is, but also how one gives it away. According to the book, personal power is creating a life of joy and abundance everyday by living a life filled with honesty and integrity. For example, when you feel jealousy towards another person, you are giving over your personal power to the person that you are jealous of. I have found that true in my own life experience. Last year I wanted a promotion so badly I could taste it. During my interview process, I had a feeling that I was not going to get the promotion. When I found out who they gave the position to, I was very angry. They gave the Director’s position to someone who had no experience in this field. Whenever I was upset about not having the position or made a remark about the Director’s inexperience I was giving away my personal power. The Director was still in the position I wanted and nothing was going to change that fact. I was not handling it with joy, integrity, honesty or abundance all I was creating more negative energy in my life. I left my position before I was able to altar my thoughts and regain my personal power.