The Changling

Do you remember "The Changlings" in Star Trek? They were beings that could become something or someone else depending on the situation. How often are we changlings in our own lives and relationships? There have been many a time that I have not been completely honest with someone else, about who I am. Instead I have tried to be what they wanted. It started in childhood with my parents and siblings. The thought was "If they really knew me, they wouldn't love me, so I have to be what they want me to be so that I get their love." Then as I grew older I found that it was easier in a relationship to morph into what the other person wanted. Funny thing is, the more that I became the person I wasn't, the more I longed for the person I was. When I finally found the awareness of the person I really am, I yearned more for that essence. It is like a truth serum, a holy grail, the power within. The hardest part is to admit it to yourself, and start living your truth instead of the lie. It is not easy, but once you start it is an elixir of passion and purpose far beyond what you every thought possible to have.

Total Appreciation

Today I am spending a moment in total appreciation. Appreciation for being here on this earth, in this body, in this time, and at this moment. For I know that even in the challenges I face I grow in faith and love. Faith in that everything is perfect, right here right now. And love for all that I have and all that I am shown to desire more of. As I feel the deepest of my appreciation, I know that it is coming from a source much greater than the human part of myself. It is infinite and abundant and never ending. I am in ah of the depth and power that this unconditional loving energy has. It holds me in it's caress and I know that I am loved without judgment, scars are unseen, size is inconsequential, past is forgiven, guilt is in-material, we are all the same. Children in the purest form and oh so loved....

It's All In The Thought

How often do you go from pleasure to pain? It's all in the thought.
It amazes me how if I am not connected to a place of gratitude and thankfulness, how I can start to question my actions and my existence at that present moment. I can not go from grateful to sadness or being worried without allowing those thoughts to creep in. What I have found is that most of the time they are helped along by others. I can be in a state of loving and be around someone who isn't so loving and feel the energy get sucked right out of me. It is only when I am fully aware of what is happening that I can stop the process and make a decision to block my thoughts from going to that not so fuzzy place. It takes steady practice and I find that when I am in a vulnerable, low mood that I attract more of that which I don't want. Helpless and hopeless are not friends of mine. Strength and wisdom are. Keeping an eye on your thoughts and feelings is stepping into the awareness game to go from pain up the ladder to pleasure.

What's in Her Koolade?

When I sit and ponder my life and how I got to this point, I note all the things I am grateful for that got me here in the first place. It might seem to someone else to be a horrible place to be, the separation of a thirty year marriage, new career move, and economic hardship. What I see is a new adventure, a more fulfilling life and opportunities never taken before. You might be saying "What's in her Koolade?" What I created was purely out of the love for myself and therefore everything that has surrounded it has manifested in love as well. My husband and I remain friends and I feel we are closer then ever before. My new career path offers me the ability to work with young women in helping them go through the limiting beliefs that we as parents (out of love) give them and they need to get rid of. Well the economic hardship, I brought on myself from my own limiting beliefs and can change them as I empower myself. So, I do feel very blessed in the knowledge that I am the captain of my ship and only I control my destiny. I am so excited to see where the compass takes me next!

Slow Down

I’ve started a book club featuring David Essel’s book Slow Down, The Fastest Way to Get Everything You Want . http://www.meetup.com/Inner-Self-Development-Meetup-Group. You can follow the club on-line or if you live in Naples, Florida please come join our group. David takes you through three steps 1. Intention, 2. Gratitude, and 3. Action. In the process of slowing down and taking a look at these three areas of our lives we can learn how to manifest everything that we are wanting in our lives. One very important step is the writing assignments. In writing our intentions, gratitude and actions down we can see where we are, at this present moment and look at where we want to be in the future. Come take a journey with me to just Slow Down. To learn more about David Essel I have included a link to his web-site http://talkdavid.com

Creating What We Desire

Creating what you want is easy to do. Knowing what you want maybe harder.
There are so many times when I think I know what I want in my life, but, once it materializes then I say “Well that wasn’t what I wanted!”
Sometimes we really have to take a look at what it is we truly want and evaluate “Is it really something that I desire in my life?” As soon as you desire something you will be putting it out into the universe to receive it. Whether the energy that is given to the desire is positive or negative it has been asked for.
If you desire to have financial wealth and you are coming from a position of lacking money in your life than it is from a state of lack that is going out into the universe. If you want a loving relationship with someone and you are coming from a place of total love and abundance then you’re creating total love and abundance to come to you.
It isn’t as much the thoughts we have about our desire as it is the feelings that surround it. Each time we are in a feeling place that is based in fear or lack then what we receive is going to be from the same place of fear or lack. This is why we find ourselves recreating the things we do not want in our lives.
So how do we get to a better feeling place? The first step is awareness. Once we become aware that what we want is what we do not have and that our focus is on the do not have rather than the want. Then, we can change the feeling of lack and start feeling from a better place. How do we do that? The best way is to take little steps.
First look at what you do have and start having appreciation for those things or relationships. Then notice how you can enhance what you already have, such as, “I have a wonderful friendship with this person and we share like minded interests. It is so fun to be around this person and I am truly grateful for any time that we can spend together. I will look for more opportunities to be able to spend with this friend because it gives me such joy in my life.” By doing this it creates a positive aspect to your desire and allows what you want to manifest. As we become more aware of our gratitude for the things or people in our lives, we start feeling more love and abundance. Then when something happens to draw us back in the feeling of fear or lack, we can choose to move out of that feeling and see how we can come from a better place by refocusing on what we do have and being grateful for it.
Try this out and Write it down….See how it changes your creation of what you desire.