A Choice to Live or Die

In my work I have spoken to a number of clients about choices, rarely, do I get an opportunity to talk about the ultimate choice in life...Living or Dying. I recently had such an opportunity. My client had been on a destructive road for a very long time. Her path was created out of the limiting beliefs we all have, I am not worthy of....for her, it was that she was not worthy to live. But, when she was confronted with a true physical ultimatum, she was forced to make the difficult choice. What did she truly want? What she discovered was that she really wanted to live, not die. Even though she had been pursuing death's road, it really wasn't her real intention to follow through with this choice. Now is when the real work begins. Because of her decisions she has made in the past, her health has been put in jeopardy, which she now has to work very hard on her recovery. Will it be possible for her to get healthy again? Yes, with time and a lot of work. It will be challenging, but the effort will be well worth the struggle.

When Feelings Get Hurt

Far to often things are misunderstood or misinterpreted in relationships. We make assumptions and we have expectations and sometimes we get hurt. The problem is that the level of communication is not there. At times it is both our faults, but, at other times it is just a plain and simple not knowing. One person might have been thinking about something that happened in the past or was looking forward to something in the future and the other was just going with the moment. Take for example a partner who went to dinner with someone else and shared the experience with you. That partner was oblivious to your hurt in that you were not invited and if nothing is said, they will never know. Yet, you can stew over the dinner for a long time and it will come out at a later date in a very obscure way. If you communicate your displeasure right away it allows you both to talk about it and bring closure to it. It is very important to live in the present moment and not dwell in the past or look for things to happen in the future , it hasn't come yet and so therefore it doesn't even exist. Be present it is such a gift!

Ask The Question

Sometimes our perception of the world and ourselves is tainted with the rose colored glasses that we are wearing. We see ourself one way while others might see us in a totally different way all together. Have you ever thought about asking the question, "Who do you see me to be?" It might seem scary at first, but, you will never know unless you ask. And, who knows, the answer might surprise you and give you great pleasure. I have found that I don't always see myself as the way others see me and when I ask, I am pleasently surprised to hear their answer. I might feel that I am weak, and the comments that come back indicate that I am strong and capable. Awe perceptions! Try it! Of course, you want to ask those that you feel safe with, and that are there to support and love you. I would never ask someone that is not in my support circle, this question. I wish you good feedback.