Desires And Dreams

Desires and dreams; what are they? I remember as a small child I used to fantasize about my life as a grown up. What I would be, where I would live and who I would be living with. Sometimes our dreams don’t come true exactly as we had fantasized, but. we do receive exactly what we put out to the universe. When we desire to have one thing, and within moments after that desire is put into thought, another thought creeps in that can stop that desire based on a belief that it is not possible to achieve what we want. At this point we have just stopped the process of our desire. Or, we have a desired thought or dream, and as we focus on it, we realize that we want something else. So, we focus on that desire and dream and as we focus on that, something else drifts into our thoughts and we decide to focus on that desire or dream. It can get rather complicated to achieve what you truly desire when you constantly shift what it is that you want. In both situations the main desire is not realized, because, either we don’t think we can have it or we don’t stay focused on one desire to create it. The latter for me is in the art of relationships. I bounce around a lot in my dreams and desires for what I want in my life when it comes to a relationship with someone. Most of the time it is because of the old belief system that I have about me and my self worth that creates the shift in thought. It is when I can step back and say I am worthy enough, talented enough, smart enough, attractive enough and I deserve the relationship that I desire. Then it can be manifested to reality. There is only one person who limits your manifestation of your desires and dreams and that is you. What ever you want you can have, just know that it is yours!

Appreciating The Contrast In Your Life

Appreciating the contrast in your life is extremely important, for it only in the knowledge of what you don’t want that you can truly see what you do want. If I didn’t have struggle I would not now what coasting feels like. If I hadn’t experienced pain I wouldn’t know how truly wonderful pleasure feels. If I hadn’t had those who were judgmental and conditional, I would never have known the joy in the unconditional loving for myself and others. At times I truly have felt that contrast sucks and yet each time I have seen the grace in it on the other side. For it is in that place that strength, resilience, fortitude, love, beauty, and care come into my life through me. I can truly say that I am deeply connected to my greater Source because of the contrast and resistance in my life.

Men vs. Women An Emotional Balancing Act

Men vs. Women, an emotional balancing act, before we can really grasp or understand the depth into this, we have to first explain a little female 101. For any men who might be out there reading this, communication is the key to a happy relationship with a woman. Mind you, a woman will expect you to know what she is thinking and to tell you what you are thinking, but, that is because you haven’t given her anything to keep her thoughts to herself…I have had so many clients and women in general that I have spoken to about this problem, they have said “If he would only talk about it, share with me what he’s feeling, call!!!” Now I am not a man so therefore my opinion is that, mine, but I will say in my observation of men, they have something to teach us women. And that is selfishness, you go it! Women in general go through life thinking about the other person, how they will feel, react, understand or whatever. We spend our time concerned with the taking care of others, rather than ourselves. Men on the other hand are just the opposite, they are concerned with #1 (themselves first) preservation of the species. It is an after thought to them to think about what you are thinking or feeling. The statement that is generated in the heat of a discussion is “Why didn’t you say that in the first place or I didn’t know you felt that way?” Communication is key. A relationship is made up of two people and in turn takes the two to enhance and enrich that said relationship. Working toward this goal is what we all strive to do and yet an important element is in the understanding of our differences. We have different hard wiring in our brain and throughout our bodies that allow us to be male and female, yin and yang. It is in the understanding of our differences that can give us better knowledge into how to communicate better. So that we can appreciate one another on a more spiritual level rather than the emotional one, most of us are in.