Winning the Love Battle

When I first started to talk to people about the idea of self-love. There was that deer in the headlights look. Most of us don't know what self-love is, because we were never taught how to love ourselves. Somehow we were told that we had to be selfless, to love yourself was to be selfish. What is selfish? The idea of making yourself important above others to me seems to be what we all should strive to do. We cannot have joy and love in our relationships if we do not have joy and love for us first. Take the time to excercise the practice of self. Put yourself first before you start to give to someone else for one week. See what happens to you and your relationships.

Self Love and Harm

This is a very difficult subject. I work with many people who do not love themselves. The first thing they do is to blame themselves for what ever goes wrong in their life. "I'm bad," "You can't love me, because I'm unloveable", " I'm stupid I should have know better." Recognizing that these are lies that we tell ourselves from old beliefs, is the first part of self love. We don't have to believe those thoughts that do not serve us. Is it easy to change these thoughts? It takes work, but the awareness of recognizing them is truly the first step.