What Is Our Creative Self

What is our creative self? So many of us, don’t even know that we have a creative part. Most of the time, it is because when we were young, something happened to cause us to hide that part of us, so that it wouldn’t get hurt. I was working with a woman who talked about her inability to create. I told her that we all have some part of us that is creative in one form or another. As we talked we discovered that when she was a child she was teased at school for coloring outside the lines and so she created a belief that she was not creative. Does this sound familiar? We take on what is said and make it our truth even when it is a lie. Check in to that child within and see if there is a time in your past that created a sense within you of non-creativity. Non-joy is more what I would describe this part of us. Look at a child and see that even when they are not following the rule, they are in a space of pure bliss, jumping in those puddles, coloring a cow purple, eating the frosting and leaving the cake. Live your life creative and juicy. Why postpone Joy?

Don't Take It Personally

In Don Miguel Riuz's book The Four Agreements, he talks about four rules to live your life by: 1. Be impeccable with your word. 2. Don't take anything personally. 3. Don't make assumptions. 4. Always do your best.
I want to talk about number two. Don't take anything personally. Today I am working very hard on remembering this simple but profound rule. How often when something happens in our life do we feel that it is a reflection about us. The questions flow What did I do? What didn't I do? If I only did this it would have been better. I could have prevented it from happening. The truth is, it is not about you....What ever is going on in the other person is their stuff not yours and to accept their stuff is not your responsibility. Your responsibility is to work on your own stuff.
Check in with yourself. How are you feeling at this present moment? Is the relationship feeling good or is it feeling not so good? Where is that feeling coming from? How does it relate to this present moment? What in this moment is about you? Can you figure out if this is from an old belief? If so what do you need to do to change it so that you can feel better? You are only responsible for you.....Let go of what other people think, because to be honest, you will never know the answer to that question.....

Affirmations

When we are trying to get in a healthier place both spiritually and emotionally one of the greatest tools is affirmations. When we can say I am powerful, I am beautiful, I am strong, I am good, I am smart, I am creative, I am.. I am… I am. Then we can start to feel better and even though at first you might not really feel the words you are saying, very soon you will start to feel them. Take time to write your affirmations down, write at least 100 of them. Keep them positive. Do not limit yourself in any way. Write down things that you might not feel you could ever achieve, but have always felt. It is important to make them as real to you as possible. Do not have any doubts while doing them. Put them in categories:
Health/Fitness
Career
Relationships
Spirituality/God
Money
Friends/Family
Fun/Recreation
Environment/Home
You
By doing this you create a tool to setting your goals as to what you want in your life and achieving it.
Aha! I am full....

Sacred Relationships V

Intimacy and sexuality are a very strong component of who we are in a healthy relationship. How can we get there? One of the most important parts of creating a space for attracting intimacy in your life is allowing yourself to feel safe. I think safety is key to all areas of our life. When we are in a state of fear regarding anything, from fear of the unknown to fear of rejection what we attract is the same thing that we fear. When we are in a place of love and acceptance we attract that to ourselves. So to get to a place of feeling safe, we have to explore the deepest part of us, the place that is hidden from the pain of time, that child energy that has been wounded, hurt, rejected. This part of us holds us in the old pain, not allowing us to break free. Once we acknowledge its existence and are able to understand where this feeling came from, then we can start to heal.
Close your eyes and see that child from the past, the child that was the purest of loving energy. See you before the pain formed in your life. What does this child look like? How old is this child? Talk to your child energy, find out if there is something that you need to know or need to do to create that safe place for you. Take this moment to get to know that child energy and the wisdom that they share with you. If there is a word or phrase that comes from your time with your inner child, remember it and when you open your eyes write it down. Concentrate on what you heard, what you know to help you heal. You can go back and visit with your inner child at anytime, this is a special place of healing and growth. Create the sacred and safe part of you so that you can fully share with another that joyful dance of loving intimacy.