Sacred Relationships III

When we are looking at our relationships to see if they fill us or deplete us, we can get a clear picture of who we go to for fulfillment. The three most important ways to get full and stay full are by first going to God, Universal Source, Creator, Buddha, Allah whatever you call your higher power. Next you go to yourself. Lastly, you go to others to fill you up. In doing so you want to make sure that those that you seek are already full themselves. You are completely transparent in your asking for love, you let them know exactly what you need at that moment. I don't know how many times I have heard people say, doesn't he/she know that I need them to do this or that without me having to ask. Even if one could read the other person's mind, it is not their responsibility to know when you are not full yourself. When I say full I mean that you feel loved and accepted in yourself and that you do not carry judgment. This is unconditional loving. It is easy to know whether someone is loving you unconditional or not by checking where you feel your energy when you are around them. Do you feel full in your heart area or do you have that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach? Do you feel your own power or do you feel powerless?
When we are in a state of unconditional loving, we are not bound by emotional attachment. We have let go, severed the cords that bind us to others. We have let go of the judgments that create conditions. In this state the love, what we feel for someone else is the extension of the love we feel for ourselves.